One of the things that really cracks me up is the number of guys who study and worry over what gun they should get for the woman in their lives. After all, they are imminently qualified since they just got their own CHL and have been reading Guns & Blasters magazine for the last three years. So they hit the gun shops searching for just the right gun for that little lady and come home with something small, pink and cheap. After all, she's not going to shoot it much, and everyone knows that just having a gun will take care of all those crooks. You really don't have to be able to shoot it well.
Then they compound the whole mess by deciding to save money by teaching her all she really needs to know. Not a problem. You see, they passed their written CHL test and almost shot a clean score on the shooting part of the exam. If this doesn't qualify them as a professional gunfighter, they'd like to know what does.
Well, boys, I hate to burst your bubble, but let's look at some established facts. The average woman can handle any defensive handgun that the average man can. Instead of buying what you think she needs, why not let her decide? You can be of help by steering her away from cheap guns and light-caliber guns. Let her shoot a lot of guns, good guns, and make up her own mind. And I'll bet she doesn't choose a pink one (or maybe she will).
Then you could really be of service by putting your ego aside and getting her some professional training instead of screwing it up on your own. You know, from people who really know what they are talking about—people who really know how to teach. And you are really going to be amazed by this, but most of those good defensive schools welcome couples to their classes and, difficult as this is to believe, you will undoubtedly benefit from attending, too.
Getting your concealed-carry permit is like graduating from elementary school. The balance of your education is in front of you, not behind you. That's a good thing to keep in mind.